Exploration.

Hey ladies,

This is the first blog. Let me know what you think about it.

Last night, my friend and I were having a conversation on the phone when she suddenly stopped mid-sentence and blurted out, "Have you ever had an orgasm"? Of course I was shocked by this question because it came without warning, but I simply answered "Yes". However this question made me wonder, what classifies an orgasm and why is it that some women can have multiple orgasm and others haven't experienced one?

The mind is a complex machine designed to help us adapt to our environment. However, the mind sometimes becomes rigid making it difficult to change persisting habits. In this case women have the habit of solely attempting to please their love partner instead of their own bodies. Our thoughts and movements in the bedroom are contingent on what makes our partner feel good. I object to this fully. Keep in mind that I am not saying that women should only focus on what makes them feel good in the bedroom, kitchen counter, bathroom floor, or which ever you may prefer, but we must do things that make us feel good as well.


The solution; play with yourself. Having an orgasm is all about having the right attitude and the right tools to achieve an orgasm. You must relinquish all of your fears and taboos about what it means to be a lady and learn how to listen to your body. We are all beautiful, yet we are all different; therefore it is essential that you learn what sexually excites you. You must explore your body. Locate your sensitive spots along the internal walls of your vagina and play with them, go to your local sex store and purchase a dildo. Identify your sexual inhibitions. Put them into a box, lock the key, and throw it away. Lesson 1: Explore.

-Zuri

It All Begins With Curiosity. Part 1.

Dear Splayed Bloggers,

     How does one welcome you to something that is so natural to you or something so close to the making of your being?   It's as if we, (the splayed team), are welcoming you to your own life. Hmmm, I guess the only way to do this would be to start from the very beginning. 

Relationships: A connection between two people. Whether friendship or enemies or friends with benefits or lovers; the primal fact is that there is a connection.

Sex: the foremost genuine and natural gift in which the two people in the aforementioned definition decide to perform. 

Yes, I know, I know, there is so much more that can go into these definitions. For certain we wouldn't be able to cover relationships and sex in one teeny blog. If we could encapsulate everything in one blog we wouldn't have started this up. Our aim at Splayed isn't so much to define relationships and sex, for there is way too much that constitutes underneath them. More so we want to explore it and learn what falls under the umbrella of relationships and sex through our own and others view of them. Let the tales begin. Get comfortable..... READ TheSplayed.blogspot.com

After all.... how can it be taboo if everyone is doing it?

From The Splayed Team